“You can’t do this.  
You’re too weak.  
You\u2019re not fast enough; you\u2019re too slow.  
Get out of the way; you\u2019re out of your league.  
You\u2019ll never be good enough\u2014go back to your little life.  
How can you think like this? Don\u2019t you realize it will never happen for you?  
You\u2019re stupid for even considering it!  
You\u2019re nothing. Small. Insignificant!”

We can all see ourselves as victims. In our own ways, we\u2019ve experienced disappointment\u2014name-calling, rejection, ridicule, loneliness, and feeling misunderstood. We\u2019ve faced setbacks, like poor grades, being fired from a job, or a breakup that blindsided us. The way we define ourselves plays a crucial role in how we navigate and overcome these challenges.

As we grow up, being told we are too fat, ugly, smelly, stupid, or weak can shape our self-image. Eventually, we start to believe these negative labels. Our journey should be about defining ourselves and discovering who we really are. But when these criticisms bombard us, it\u2019s easy to let them take root. If everyone around us insists we can\u2019t do something, we start to think they must be right.

These labels become our identities.

As we mature, it\u2019s not just other kids hurling insults; we begin to echo those words ourselves. We\u2019ve internalized the victim mentality; we\u2019ve accepted that definition, and we remind ourselves of it at every opportunity. 

Typically, we picture a bully as someone bigger, older, stronger, or more intelligent than us. But sometimes, that big bad wolf isn\u2019t an external force; sometimes, the big bad wolf is\u2026 ourselves.

How do you define your bully?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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